You are not for everyone – and that’s ok

I posted this a while ago, but thought it was time to update it slightly as it’s one of my most popular posts.

I stumbled up an image on Facebook (at the end of this post) which is an excerpt of Rebecca Campell’s book Light Is the New Black: A Guide to Answering Your Soul’s Callings and Working Your Light

Here it is:

You are not for everyone

The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will point blank not like you. But it is also filled with those who will love you fiercley. They are your people. You are not for everything and that’s OK. Talk to the people who can hear you.

Don’t waste your precious time and gifts trying to convince them of your value, they won’t ever want what you’re selling. Don’t convince them to walk alongside you. You’ll be wasting both your time and theirs and will likely inflict unnecessary wounds, which will take precious time to heal. You are not for them and they are not for you; politely wave them on and continue along your way. Sharing your path with someone is a sacred gift; don’t cheapen it by rolling yours in the wrong direct.

Keep facing your true north.

I cannot tell you how much, every time I read these words they resonate with me.

These really are some wise words – in all aspects of our life. From work to friendship to relationships. Life is just way too short to spend time and valuable energy trying to convince someone that you are for them.

It’s hard if you’re a people pleaser to get used to those five simple words. It may be deep down in your psyche to think about what others think about you and how their opinions should come before your own. But really, it doesn’t have to be that way.

The more you become yourself, the more you will find that your people will flock to you. It may not happen overnight, but that’s no reason to give up. Being disliked by someone is no real reflection on you, it’s just that you’re not their person.

YOU ARE NOT FOR EVERYONE. Those words should be in your daily mantra and if you’re currently in one sided friendships where you’re only picked up when you can do something for them or you’re chasing a client that means that you constantly have to sell yourself – pack that shit up and move on.
You are not for everyone. And that’s OKAY!


Author: Rachael

I'm a journalist and creative consultant. I write about how busy women (just like you) can live, work and eat - better.

45 thoughts on “You are not for everyone – and that’s ok”

  1. Absolutely!!
    As a teenager, I always wanted to please and be liked, but after a while, you do realise, that you’re a much happier person not pretending to like someone to be liked.
    Don’t waste your time on people who couldn’t give a shit about you, it really isn’t worth it.

  2. This is so true. We can waste a lot of energy on worrying about the people that aren’t for us instead of embracing the ones that are

    1. hi Sarah
      It’s from Rebecca Campbell’s book – Light Is the New Black: A Guide to Answering Your Soul’s Callings and Working Your Light 🙂

  3. This is the truth, we are not for everyone and that’s okay. Wasting energy on those who are not bothered by us for whatever reason, is pointless. I’ve encountered people like that and I just pay them no mind, but I know for some it’s not as easy x

  4. I love this. One of my favourite quotes is ‘you can be the ripest juiciest peach in the world and there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches’!

  5. So true, sometimes you meet people and you just don’t get on because your personalities are just not compatible. I’ve learnt over time to just let this pass rather than trying to force things x

  6. Such a well written post. Definitely a ‘friend’ I could show this post to as well, haha. For so long, I wondered what I had done (even though there was nothing) and why she suddenly disliked me, but I’m happy with myself and staying true to me!

  7. I wish I had been given this piece of advice years ago. Too many heartaches and years have gone by, trying to please everyone and this couldn’t be more true. Thank you x

  8. This is so very true! I think a lot of people struggle with feeling that they haveto convince people around that they are something and to feel liked. You can’t be friends with everyone

  9. if you keep following your true north you will end up at the north pole. That must be why Santa lives there. ho ho ho!

  10. Hi Sarah,
    Such wonderful words of wisdom
    Its true, you cannot pls. Anyone to like you or love you, no matter how you try and show your goodness they always find ways and find a reason to detach from you and see your flaws. If you Force your self to them you will find your yourself, unworthy and a loser. You have to pick your self on the ground, regain your energy and prepare your self for a good one that will see your worth and value.

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